Naomi provides this description of her forthcoming talk: “In an intimate relationship, the barriers that usually separate one person from another soften. Both partners feel warm and alive. Without intimacy, people often complain of feeling hollow and cold. “I can’t find the right person,” they say. They may have partners, but the barriers between them remain. Many relationships either break down or get stuck. Naomi Stadlen will suggest a fundamental reason for this, based on two decades of work with clients and of discussions with mothers.”
Naomi has contributed chapter 3, “The Challenge of Intimacy: Fear of the Other” to Existential Perspectives on Relationship Therapy edited by Emmy van Deurzen and Susan Iacovou. She has published What Mothers Do – especially when it looks like nothing (2004), and How Mothers Love – and how relationships are born, which includes a chapter: “I can’t do intimacy” (2011).